expectation

out of 100%, how much are you willing to give to a person (your partner, family or even friends), and how much are you expecting in return ?

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i was once asked this question, and my answer was- i am willing to give 50%, and i expect 50% from him.

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i guess this is a common answer that most of us will give.

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according to the person who asked me, if we want to leave happily, we should try to give 100%, and expect 0%. therefore if the opposite side treats us well, we will be delighted because we expect nothing, and when something comes in it will be a bonus for us.

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which i fully agree, totally makes sense for me.

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i tried my very best to treat everyone around me well, maybe it doesn't seem that way for the others but i can happily tell myself i've done my best. erm.. maybe not to certain people whom i dislike. i'm a very straight-forward person... to people i dislike. i will choose to not speak to them, or even greet them.

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i guess everyone's patience has a limit. to a certain extend i will tend to feel tired of just giving but not receiving anything. maybe in between the process i might have done something wrong, but hey, i'm only a normal human.

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by not getting anything in return is already bad enough, the worse thing is get certain treatment you dislike, and you just gotta bear with it because you appreciate the other person so much, no matter how nasty she can be to you.

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i always thought the only way to make myself happy is to treat others well, and seeing them happy is my biggest reward. maybe this applies in a short term. after a while, people tend to forget what you've done and everything shall go in vain.